Does training your child up in the truth of Scripture mean they will ALWAYS walk with God?

Over at CBMW, Jonathan Akin recently published an article on the seeming truism of Proverbs 22:6.  It reads in the ESV, “Train up a child in the way he should; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

This verse, at first glance, seems to be a promise to parents that if they train their children up in the Lord, and teach them the ways of God, then they will be set for life.  After all, it does say that your children will not depart from Christ if you do this.  However, we see over and over again an experiential truth take place in the lives of many families.  The truth that many parents teach their kids about Jesus, but their kids reject Christ when they get older—often in their teenage years.

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The difference between novice and seasoned

It doesn’t matter what your vocation is, here are some good principles to think through between being a novice and a seasoned vet.  Though none of us will ever be perfect seasoned ballers—and I’m far from that elite status myself—may we be reminded to always be growing spiritually, professionally, personally, and in our families.

THE NOVICE:

  • Wears influences on their sleeves
  • Knows more about what others say concerning their profession
  • Always on call
  • Entitled
  • Takes criticism personally

THE SEASONED:

  • Has grown into who they are
  • Knows their profession and what others are saying
  • Knows when to clock out
  • Thankful
  • Understands the person who is criticizing

What would you add?  Take away?

Extroverts and introverts need each other to bring about great change

As I sift through thousands of pages of leadership material and team-oriented resources, I realize much of it is geared toward personality types.  We are obsessed with this stuff.

Are you an introvert?

Are you an extrovert?

Often times, these two questions come with stigmas attached.  I’ve been reading Susan Cain’s brilliant book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, and she talks about how extroverts are often seen as the dominant, poster-boy personality type.  Introverts are seen more as shy, quiet, pale, and bland.  Not the case, though.  Without introverts, the world would be devoid of such minds as Warren Buffett, Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Sir Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, W. B. Yeats, Frederic Chopin, Marcel Proust, George Orwell, Dr. Seuss, Steven Spielberg, and J. K. Rowling.  That’s a lot of brilliance in that list right there.

As I have begun this book, though, Cain has reminded me why introverts and extroverts need one another.  Using Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr. as examples, she states:

Take the partnership of Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr.: a formidable orator refusing to give up his seat on a segregated bus wouldn’t have had the same effect as modest woman who’d clearly prefer to keep silent but for the exigencies of the situation.  And Parks didn’t have the stuff to thrill a crowd if she’d tried to stand up and announce that she had a dream.  But with King’s help, she didn’t have to (5).

Whether you are an introvert or extrovert, may you see the beauty and intricacy of the personality that is different than yours.  One day, you may need that bold, skillful orator to go to bat for you.  Or you may need that quiet thinker to give you you’re content.

[INFOGRAPHIC] A guide for teenagers (and their parents) to date differently

Over the past month, our family ministry staff at Foothills Church has been working on a guide for teenagers and their parents concerning dating.  If you know me, then you know I am absolutely against dating, unless you are ready for marriage.  It is mind-blowing to me when I hear of middle school students “dating,” or high school students dating who are years away from marriage.

Listen, there is nothing that brings more guilt-stricken teenagers and confused parents to my office for counseling sessions then this topic.

I recently put a few of my thoughts concerning this topic into an article at the Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood.  Here is an excerpt from this article:

I think this topic—how you handle dating, sex, and marriage as a teenager—will help you flourish as a young person, or it will destroy you.  You see, before sin came into the world, we didn’t need to have conversations around “how teenagers should date for the glory of God.”  Because we live in a post-Genesis 3 world, and a post-Industrial Revolution world at that (which became ground zero for a new phenomena known as youth culture), conversations like this need to happen.  Here is what I want to get off my chest right from the beginning:  the way young people view and pursue dating, sex, and marriage today = DISASTER!  I have been working with teenagers and their families for the past 10 years, and nothing brings more counseling sessions with conflicted parents and teens who are full of guilt and shame to my office than this topic.  Whenever these conversations, counseling sessions, teaching moments, and sermons take place, I always go back to 5 words to guide our conversation:

GOD, ME, THEM, US, WE.  

I go onto to define what I mean by these 5-words.  For teenagers and their parents, these words are crucial and formative throughout your preparation time for marriage.

For our purpose here, however, I want to give you an infographic that will hopefully be a roadmap for you in your dating pursuits.  If you have any questions, thoughts, or comments on this stuff, shoot me a comment.  I would love to converse.

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Letting boys be non-medicated boys will take more work

This week over at the Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, I published an article on the over-diagnosis of ADHD in boys and the solution of Ritalin.  Needless to say, it garnered lots of attention—as was the purpose of the article.

Even the goodness of boyhood energy is broken by the fall.  But in most cases, what if we are getting the diagnosis wrong?  What if ADHD seems more like God-given characteristics of what it means to actually be a boy?  Here is an excerpt from the article:

I talk with parents often about their intentions in medicating with Ritalin. I get it. They want their boys to succeed, have good grades, and not get in trouble, but there is a considerable complication with this manner of thinking. Sometimes, though, it might be needed. For instance, there are times when this sort of medication is medically necessary. I’m not a doctor, and I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t know all the ins and outs, but I do think that because we live in a fallen world, there are cases where it might be needed. Even the goodness of boyhood energy is broken by the fall. But in most cases, I think we are getting the diagnosis wrong. When we see problems with our boys like…

  • Doesn’t play well by themselves
  • Doesn’t sit still
  • Fidgety
  • Easily distracted
  • Loud and talkative

…we often diagnosis those symptoms as a problem. As Albert Mohler has said, “We want to find a diagnosis in a problem, and we want to find a savior in a pill” (1). To me, these problems seem more like God-given characteristics of what it means to actually be a boy—a non-medicated boy. I would suggest to you that the diagnosis of boyhood is not a problem to solve, but a tension to love.

You can read the article in it’s entirety here.

That same day, Owen Strachan, who is the President of CBMW—and my boss—followed up with some very helpful thoughts concerning mothers parenting boys with mountains of energy.  You read his helpful thoughts here.

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